Another birthday has come and gone for me. I’m now 37 years old. It feels very weird to say this. I remember my parents being this age. I’m not quite where I expected to be at 37. That’s not to say I’m not happy with my life because I am happy. My criticism with myself lies in the fact that I don’t have everything figured out (maybe I never will) and the changes I so desperately want to happen have not come as easily as I hoped. Quite often I feel as if I’m spinning in circles wasting precious energy fighting life.

When all of the usual methods I know have produced no results, I know I need to change my methods. So here I am.

I’ve thought about this a lot over the past few weeks. I evaluated my approach to situations and how I handle things and I realized something huge. I have stopped being proactive with life and have instead become reactive. Instead of actively pursuing what I want, I’ve been preoccupied with all of the to-do’s and issues and small emergencies that need my attention. I let these things consume me and all of the energy I have. I’ve taken a back seat to my own life.

This has to change.

I know that there will not be one easy fix to correct this. I know that I will have to make a conscious effort to get back in charge of leading my life. I know that I will have to prioritize and sometimes even put my needs in front of others that I care for. I also know that this will not be easy. It will be a process but I’m ready to get started and make some changes. I’m ready to feel like me again.

 

 

 

Reese Witherspoon was in the news earlier this week for a comment she made during an interview about talking to her children about domestic abuse.  I applaud her for having this conversation because it is such an important one to share.

Growing up, domestic abuse was discussed in our house.  My mother made a mistake and married at 16.  At the time she thought it was the right thing to do and was a ticket out of her home.  Little did she know that the next 5 years of her life would be spent with an extremely abusive husband.  It wasn’t until she was sure that he would kill her that she left.  Thankfully she did not have children with this man and cutting ties was made a bit easier.

She told my brother and I about her situation as we grew up.  The older I got the more I could see how it altered her life forever and changed who she was at the core.  She told us that maybe she lived through it so that her children would know that you don’t have to put up with it and that you never treat another person that way.  It was important for her to know that her son would never lay a hand on his wife and her daughter would never allow it to happen.

I am so thankful for these talks.  I never dreamed that I would be put in the same situation.  When I was 18 and broke up with my boyfriend, he turned physical.  I knew right then that he could never be trusted again.  If he went there once, it would happen again.  I filed a police report, issued my statement and the prosecutors took care of the rest for me.  I later learned that he was sentenced to anger management classes and community service.  I have never spoken to him again, but hope that he learned something about himself.  I hope that it never happened to another women in his life.  I did what I could to prevent it from happening again.

Talk to your kids about social issues such as abuse.  Tell them that this behavior is not OK.  Tell them that is should never be tolerated.  Tell them to watch out for their friends and report suspected abuse.

If you or someone you know is a victim of abuse, there is help available.  Visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline or call 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) for help. 

 

I have two dogs…. two dogs who I wish could tell me what they are thinking.  I swear sometimes that they are almost human.  The expressions on their face can be priceless.  They understand so much of what we say to them too.  It’s probably a good thing that they can’t talk, Lord knows the secrets they would spill.  LOL

Here’s a little Wednesday animal humor to help speed along the rest of the week. 

funny dog pictures - A nice pawdicure helps make me feel pretty

 

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