We finally finished my son’s Fall season of baseball this last week.  It started to feel like it would stretch out forever.  It was most definitely an interesting one.  His team moved up in age and rank this season and played much better and more seasoned teams.  A decision his coach would come to question.  See, they didn’t win one game all season.  They tied a team once, but there are no “W’s” in our standings.

 

We are a new team, only being together for two seasons now.  In fact, those two seasons are the only two that my son has ever played.  He has come a long way in that short time as a ball player, but still has so much to master as well.  His biggest hurdle to conquer is still the “stage fright” that comes over him as he swings the bat.  He can hit balls all day long in the batting cages and at practice, but freezes up when at the plate during a game.  I don’t know how to help him with it other than try to explain to him how to quieten his mind and swing the bat.  He just needs to zone out and watch the ball.  That will only come with experience and confidence.  I know every time he hits a ball in a game, he is one step closer to overcoming that fear.   

I mentioned earlier that our coach second guessed himself on moving up in rank because of our record.  Even though my son didn’t win a game all season, he is still a better ball player now then when he ran out on the field for the first game. 

There are lessons to be learned in losing

I think these are lessons that kids today don’t have much experience with.  Today, everyone gets a trophy so that feelings aren’t hurt.  Score isn’t even kept at games.  We don’t want our children to feel uncomfortable, so we shield them from all of that.  But what they are missing is important too. 

I want my children to know that nothing worth having in life will come easy.  It won’t be handed to them.  They have to fight for it.  They have to put “blood, sweat and tears” into it.  They aren’t guaranteed or entitled to anything.  I want them to find that drive deep down inside of themselves that helps them push forward when times get tough.   

Losing isn’t fun. Sometimes it’s embarrassing.  It might make us mad at ourselves.  It points out our flaws and shortcomings.  It also shows us where we need work and where to focus our attention to get better. 

 

Only in experiencing a loss, can we truly appreciate what it means to win.   

 

 

This is so SO true!  So many times I am asked if there is anything that I regret in life.  The answer is no.  That doesn’t mean that I am proud of everything that I have done and that I don’t wish I could un-do some of those things.  At the end of the day, all of those mistakes… all of those experiences make up who I am.  The good, the bad and the ugly have brought me to today.  I don’t have to like my mistakes, but I do own them.  I remember them and use them to make myself a better person.  I use them to keep myself moving forward in life.

Stop obsessing over what you did wrong and embrace who you are.  Love who you are.  You are perfect!

 

 

This video was put together and posted by 12-year-old Savannah Robinson and her friends.  What an inspirational little girl!! 

 

 She writes in the YouTube posting ~

hi, my name is savannah. i’m 12 and have been a victim of bullying. thought i’d shoot this video for all of my friends who have experienced the same, and all the other underdogs out there. let’s stand up! 🙂

Let’s talk to our kids about bullying.  Let them know that it’s not OK, under any circumstances.  Let them know how important it is to stand up for others.  Let them know that they are not alone in this. 
 
 
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~ Steve Jobs
 
I think this quote from Steve Jobs sums it up pretty well.  Stay true to yourself and what you want out of your life.  We only get once chance so let’s make the most of it.
 
I have run across so many good quotes of Steve’s since his passing.  Here are two books sure contain some great motivational reading.
   

 

 

 

 

I woke up today in a horrible mood.  I’m tired and stuffy.  All I wanted to do is climb back in bed and start over.  I didn’t have that option.  I had to make breakfast, get the kids ready and send them off to school to have good days, head to work and make the best of it.  Negativity breeds and I don’t want to put that on my family or my co-workers. 

Instead of giving up on the day, I didn’t hit snooze and got up on time , took a long hot shower, made myself a cup of coffee and drank it in a dark kitchen by myself.  Sometimes a few minutes of quiet alone time will do the trick.  Plus, the kids always have a way of cheering me up as well. 

I checked Facebook this morning and ran across this gem of a quote on Positivity’s page.  Hope you enjoy it as well.     

If you can change your mind, you can change your life. What you believe creates the actual fact. The greatest revolution of my generation is to discover that individuals, by changing their inner attitudes of mind, can change the outer aspects of their lives. —William James

We can’t control those around us. We can’t control most situations. The only thing that we do have control of is ourselves; our own thoughts and actions.  Make the decision every day to use those thoughts and actions to change your life.